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I have observed the same instances years ago. What ever happened to good old fashioned dating? Well it all depends upon the person, the age and other factors, such as morals and values.

College students told you that it is all about "hooking up" and having "friends with benefits". Well that is only if you are loosed regardless to if you are a male or female, and you don't care about AIDS or other un-curable STD's. Many kids/young people do not think about those consequences until it is too late and then you cannot turn back the hands of time and you want to blame everyone else for your mistakes because you wanted a friend with benefits and the benefits were detrimental.

It is sad that men and women are skipping courting each other (get to know each other first. At least find out the persons first and last name along with their true age). As far as them jumping straight into the sack--no strings attached, have any of these young people been in a positive relationship, I know that this is the real world and not Cinderella's world, but there are still a few good apples out there why rush and die early.

The college girls that you spoke with, tell you they are totally cool with these arrangements, that is only until they become pregnant, contract an STD curable or otherwise or either become a stalker or fatal attraction or get stalked or fatal attracted against.

These individuals are not really happy because they are trying to find out what they really want themselves, and temporarily voiding that hole is what they feel satisfies them. Yes, Dr. Miriam Grossma

Why is godzgirl's blog duplicated and in both instances and only shows half of her comment? That's why I log on to MYFOX L.A. to see what other people are thinking. With only half of a response printed I'll never know what she is thinking. Or anyone else for that matter.

Gina Silva's blog has four comments but only shows three. Where is the fourth blog?

When people take the time to write these things, the least MYFOX L.A. can do is print it properly for everyone.

Well im in college right now and i would love to hook up and do all that fun stuff but i'm taking 20 units and i work. I really dont have time for "hooking up" even if i want to. Most the guys and girls who do "hook up" usually are either frat guys or rich girls who have this insane notion that college is just about having fun. Yeah im sure others do it too, but from what i have seen in my school its usually the wealthier kids who are into the hooking up more so than others...
When i finish school i plan on making up for lost time by going to college parties, clubs, and frat houses. Because from what i hear its really easy to "hook up" with naive college girls who think its fun to have one night stands.
I wouldnt mind because frankly i dont want any serious relationship with a girl i hook up with. I rather get into a serious relationship with a girl who shows self respect and is willing to go out on dates and get to know me.

But i blame the lack of female role models for the increase in hook ups among women. I mean girls today have no one to look up too. Most clebrities are either famous for sex tapes or showing off their body. So most grow up thinking all they can do is have sex and look pretty. I dont mean to sound like a jerk when i say that but thats my opinion.

I mean as a guy i cant complain, its a great time to be a guy because of easy hook ups, womens fashions that leave nothing to the imagination, and dry humping being considered a dance,etc.... but i really hate to think that someday in the future if i have a daughter that she will have to grow up in a wo

there's a limit to the number of characters that can be in any one person's comment... if you want more, gotta split it into two for now. something to be dealt with in a future iteration.

now back to the real topic...

p.s. good to have you here, gina! : )

For those who are interested in my comment, here is something close to what I said until Gina and Fox News incorporate the rest, and who knows this may have been better.

Part 2
Yes, Dr. Miriam Grossman is correct when she states that women are often left hurt and confused after a sexual hook up, because they have become emotionally attached and this is why women have such a difficult time after sexual hookups. Many women continue to engage in such risky behavior because once again they are trying to fill in that void. Many women unlike many men want to be held, cuddled, kissed and wanted, they have a need for affection.

Grossman says political correctness is to blame for so many women acting promiscuously. I feel this is true with the help of the media, models and other celebrities. Reality check this is the real world and everyone does not have a HOLLYWOOD-BEVERLY HILLS type lifestyle, many of us have to work for a living in order to survive.
The PC message being that women are equal to men and therefore, can sleep around just like men is not politically correct. I am not trying to force the issue of religion upon anyone but why is it that the word JEZABEL is in the Bible with a negative connotation directed towards women and not men? Why do women suffer during childbirth and other aspects of feminine life? Why are women vulnerable to men regardless to how masculine some women would like to be? WOMEN are NOT EQUAL to men, and in many cases this is what leads to “STALKERS” and “FATAL ATTRACTIONS,” and in many cases for women “DESTRUCTION” or even “DEATH.”

College Guy,
There is nothing wrong with college and I wish you the best of luck on your educational endeavors, however, I would like to know, why do frat guys or rich girls have to be a target of a stereotype? I am not saying that it is politically incorrect, but let us look at our choice of words. There is nothing wrong with having fun tastefully. Oh and try taking 26 units working a full time job, raising 3 children and taking care of a household. That part of your life I am not impressed with, most people that have a life do not have time to “get into trouble.” Do not take this personally, but that is just my opinion.
These are your words, “Because from what I hear it’s really easy to "hook up" with naive college girls who think its fun to have one night stands. I wouldn’t mind because frankly I don’t want any serious relationship with a girl I hook up with.
Now to me, as a full grown adult female, this makes you look bad, because I interpret this as you not having respect for women or yourself, making good men and women look bad, or making good men and women that make mistakes as human beings look bad. You know 20 years ago, I watched a female acquaintance go through this (at the time she was 23), and a male friend of mine pulled her to the side and told her not to degrade herself in such a manner, because she was a beautiful and smart young woman that had more potential at doing positive things than what she was doing.
You stated that you would “rather get into a serious relationship with a girl who shows self respect and is willing to go out on dates and get

Part 3 College Guy,
You also state that you “mean as a guy I can’t complain, its a great time to be a guy because of easy hook ups, women’s fashions that leave nothing to the imagination, and dry humping being considered a dance, etc.... but I really hate to think that someday in the future if I have a daughter that she will have to grow up in a wo…
You know, whey back when, Christopher Columbus and King Louis the 14th as well as others died from Venereal Disease, because they did not have a cure for circumstances such as those, just like they do not have a hands on cure for AIDS? Is it really a great time to be a guy when many times it is the guy that passes along things to females that do not even know that they have anything because many times females do not experience the symptoms as expeditiously as men? Teach you daughter to respect herself as well as others. Teach her to obtain an education and become a self sufficient and independent woman that does not have to rely upon anyone but herself, because it will be her that paid for her house, car, furniture and fulfillment in her life. Teach her that many times cute is a curse (look at the media), and when you become an old wrinkled prune how is cute going to feed you and pay the bills? Teach her that many of the images on television and in HOLLYWOOD are fallacious. Teach her to be true to herself and love herself both inside and out and that she will be love for her inward beauty and not some fictitious story tale.

godzgirl
You bring up some good points. And yeah i reread my post and i sound like a total jerk, and i probably am, im not arguing with you there.
But its not that i dont respect women but some times its hard when most the women i talk to at school are women who brag about getting so drunk they dont remember what happened the night before or how they woke up where they did. I know not all women are like that but after hearing so many women talk like that i begin to think otherwise.

Marriage is what you make of it. If you set yourself up for failure then that is what you will get in life. The best thing is to first find out who you are and what you want to be when you grow up (regardless of age). Get to know yourself and have peace within and then you can deal with someone else.

We are not JC (Jesus Christ) so we are not expected to be perfect. The key to making a relationship work is to work at making it. You let it go sour because you are not secure with who you are. History repeats itself, but do you repeat history? Don’t be shallow or you will be in a 4 by 4 pine box pushing up daisies. Live life to the fullest but don’t be no fool.

To Cool Guy,

You are a cool guy. Anyone who comes clean like that and calls himself a jerk after rereading his blog has emotional equity in my book.

The girls I meet seem to complain about book fees, rising tuition costs, and are mostly unemployed or going on a job interview.

I know the girls who you are talking about. They are the ones across the room or sitting in the last row putting on makeup, looking at themselves in a handheld mirror. They chirp like birds, in the back of the room, which upsets the professor and disturbs the class.

Most of the time their eyes are red and their breath is putrid with the residual odor of old alcohol. From my limited experience, girls like that are lousy lays, and can't concentrate or have real orgasims, which is what guys like.

Besides, the only reason those drunk girls talk to guys, is to copy their papers, which gets everyone cited for plagarism.

Cool Guy...It shounds like you have an O.K. job and a large load (20) units...I think you're doing just fine the way you are.


Stay cool,
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