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Apr 9, 2008 | 11:25 AM
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Is that what you men think when a woman pays you a compliment?

Let's say out of the blue, a woman tells you, "I love your suit. It makes you look so handsome", or "You have a beautiful smile, just thought I'd let you know."  How would you take that?  Would you think she was interested in you sexually or simply giving you a nice compliment --nothing more?


My experience has been that women know how to take compliments better than men.  Men seem to struggle with the "real meaning" of a compliment.  For example, just  last week, I interviewed this woman who was stunningly beautiful and incredibly nice.  When we finished the interview, I told her I thought she was gorgeous, smart and friendly.  She seemed genuinely pleased and thanked me for the compliment.

I'm pretty sure, she knew I wasn't hitting on her.

  

When I complimented a man---just telling him that I thought he was handsome, the result was totally different.  He seemed uncomfortable and not sure how to take such a statement. 


My girlfriend tells me her experience on complimenting a man was downright embarrassing.  After telling her cycling instructor that his smile was beautiful and it made her mornings, he apparently tensed up and told her "Thanks but I'm married."  Wow! What a way to turn a compliment into such an awkward situation.  Why do men have such a tough time with a little compliment?


Like most women, I like compliments.  If they are sincere, they can make you feel good and maybe for that little moment, let you forget everything going wrong that day. 

For that reason, I don't hesitate to compliment people whenever the opportunity arises.   So, the next time you guys get a compliment from a woman, how about you just enjoy it and respond courteously with a smile and a thank you.  Trust me, her compliment probably doesn't mean she  "wants you bad!" 

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Leelila_Strogov read my blog view my photos
Apr 9, 2008 | 1:22 PM

gina... you have so hit the nail on the head! i can't tell you the number of times i've been accused of flirting as a result of either being playful with, or giving a compliment to a man. ah well. i forgive them. what choice do we have, really... :-)
walter3ca view my photos
Apr 9, 2008 | 2:11 PM

Guys are used to giving compliments (with ulterior motives) so, on the rare occasion that we get one, we fall back on what we know. Maybe if we received more compliments, they would be treated with less value. And by "less value" I mean less value to us. Remember, men are men and women are women.
samo714 read my blog view my photos
Apr 9, 2008 | 2:17 PM

men aren't used to getting compliments. i rarely get them. when i do, i'm kinda in shock, and not sure what to say. but i tend to say "oh thanks" or "thanks for noticing". but i tend to get turn red, and get itchy too. but it's rare for men to compliment other men. men just tends to make fun of one another.

if a girl complimented me, i'll mostly just take it for what it is, if i knew her. most of my female friends are gay or taken, or both. if it was a stranger, i wouldn't know what to think. it has happened a few times, and i regret not finding out if they were being nice or hitting on me. mostly i just took it as they were being nice. but still i always get embarressed.
Paul_D read my blog
Apr 9, 2008 | 3:26 PM

and what would gina say to a guy whom she wanted to kiss?
samo714 read my blog view my photos
Apr 9, 2008 | 3:30 PM

paul, i don't think she would say anything, she would just do it. i'm sure she has the balls to do it. but if she did, she would be like "pucker up". lol. or "give me some sugar baby". i crack myself up sometimes.
Gina_Silva read my blog view my photos
Apr 9, 2008 | 8:11 PM

Hey guys thanks for responding. You're all very nice. See...a compliment. :-)

Walter, I get your point. That makes sense.

Samo, you get itchy with a compliment? They're supposed to make you feel good!

Paul, I'm talking about handing out nice compliments...not physical affection. Although, I like Samo's suggestions..."Give me some sugar baby"-- but on the cheek..JK
ashikun read my blog
Apr 9, 2008 | 8:33 PM

gina:if women take compliments better than men
then why do i get a strange look when i compliment a woman who has nice feet..?
Because men have a sexual thought every 10 minutes...sooo when a man is complimented it's
preceived...Sexual

ps...nice feet
Ashikun
samo714 read my blog view my photos
Apr 9, 2008 | 9:13 PM

they do make me feel good, but i tend to get shy and embarresed by it too because i'm not used to it. so it causes me to blush, which makes me get all hot (to the point that i begin sweating) then that causes me to feel itchy which causes me to get embarressed even more then before. something that mostly happens when i'm around a girl i like, or think is cute, or if i'm on a first date. yeah, that weird puppy love thing. but that's just me.

as for giving ya some sugar, no problem. cuz gina loves sugar, question is...one lump or two? but on the cheek.
Jeano view my photos
Apr 9, 2008 | 11:03 PM

Ciao Bebe (Gina),

It sounds much better in Spanish, "te quiero" or in French, "je besoin de toi".
Paul_D read my blog
Apr 10, 2008 | 5:14 AM

gina, this sticky situation is dependent on who the two people are. lots of women dig me yet i am not interested to get intimately close to most women i know or those i don't know. i have a woman friend who is gago for me. yet i have no interest. my therapist says i should not lie on her bed to watch TV
because i am teasing her. now if you were lying on my bed watching TV, i might be wanting to seduce you. but if you tell me you are not interested then i'd leave you in peace. yet i'd still be happy to have you lying next to me. back to my woman friend, she is not satisfied merely having me next to her. i don't understand why she continually tries to seduce me when i verbally tell her to stay on her side of the imaginary line i tell her separates her space from mine. as for complimenting someone, my compliment is usually a sincere observation. it is not always a prelude to further attempts at seducing her. often when my woman friend compliments me i feel she is motivated to hear return compliments about herself. i don't want to play such an insincere role for her emotional pleasure. i will compliment when i am impressed. back to the concept of who is making the compliment... if it is gina, and i am interested in getting intimate then i would perceive the compliment as an invitation to further attempts at getting intimate. until i am told to back off. this does not mean we cannot flirt. it simply means the verbal message that you are not interested might be a requirement in many of your interactions with other people. gosh gina, you are on TV and that adds an
Gina_Silva read my blog view my photos
Apr 10, 2008 | 8:20 AM

Hey guys,
I guess the tone of the compliment is also something to consider. But really my original point in this blog was to explain that most times a a nice compliment is nothing more than just someone being nice to you with no further expectation. (Paul D)

Ashikun, Re: the feet compliment...I'm not really sure. Maybe you're getting weird looks because of how you say it.

Hi Jeano, so nice to hear from u again!

Samo, you're so funny...one lump or two. Regarding your nervous reaction to girls, if they like u they probably think it's sweet.
samo714 read my blog view my photos
Apr 10, 2008 | 10:12 AM

yeah, most girls tend to find it funny, and cute. as for me, i'm just hoping i could stop the itching and sweating. lol. by the way, i just visited your website "gina silva world". it's a pretty cool site. i didnt know you wrote 2 childrens books, including one that is the name of one of my fav. wrestlers jake the snake roberts. i also enjoy hearing about your thoughts on the big marathon that you ran. again wish i was there, but could not make it because i sick. which sucked cuz i was hoping to cheer on my friend angie who also ran the marathon. anyways, i hope your knees are feeling 100% by now. well catch ya later gina.
sebar read my blog view my photos
Apr 10, 2008 | 5:23 PM

I have never had much of an issue with this. Honestly when someone says a compliment I just say thanks and get on with life. Unfortunately many people misread each other, develop instant fantasies and then get their lives screwed up and suffer because of this. If people just don't misread things then it should be fine. But consider this as well Gina. If you engage somebody, you are encroaching upon their little world. If you start complimenting somebody it is a gray line of affection, depending on the factor of tone, setting, mood, expression. Girls do hit on guys just like guys hit on girls, so it does become a two-way street of sorts. It just depends on things, and how they are developed. If people know where things stand, then there are no problems. Just that when they do not, that an issue occurs.

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o0lux0o read my blog view my photos
Apr 11, 2008 | 12:39 AM

Paul D I relate to what your talking about. I've had multiple occasions like that with people I consider/considered just friends. It's not just men Gina lol! You know what I think it is Paul D? A lot of good looking girls (and even some not so good looking ones) can't stand being rejected by guys. They aren't used to it. It's a challenge to them. Like the little puppy who wants attention they just keep trying and trying and trying, "Look at me! Pay attention to me!" I've had plenty of my chick friends and even random girls at bars or parties admit to me that when a guy doesn't pay attention to them, yet all the others are practically drooling, they're bothered and intrigued. They want to know why that one guy isn't paying them any mind and then they'll try to get that attention.

But your right, there are a lot more men than women who misread complements. I'd like to think I'm not one of them. If a girl complements me I pay close attention to the tone of voice and body language to tell if shes hitting on me or just being nice. Its really not that hard unless you run into one of those girls who flirt with anyone and everyone with or without knowing it... come on you know what I'm talking about!

So yeah, I'm proud to say I've only misinterpreted a hand full of times. Unfortunately for me most of those were from hot chicks who I later found out were actually hitting on me lol.

I'm not quick to give a complement right back, only if I actually mean it will I do it. I'm a straight forward person, very straight forward.
DfDeportation read my blog view my photos
Apr 11, 2008 | 6:12 PM

No Gina, we don't think "you want us real bad" after a compliment. We know that you chicks don't like sex.
DMMickie read my blog view my photos
Apr 12, 2008 | 6:05 PM

DF: No, the chicks you hang with don't like sex. LOL!!! :0P
DMMickie read my blog view my photos
Apr 12, 2008 | 6:05 PM

DF: No, the chicks you hang with don't like sex. LOL!!! :0P
DMMickie read my blog view my photos
Apr 12, 2008 | 6:19 PM

Man, conservs are weird. Paul D., you are too complicated. I thought only women were this bad.
Olulx: you make sense.
Astro1153 read my blog view my photos
Apr 18, 2008 | 7:18 PM

Ok, how many times have I been paid any compliment. Cannot remember any but I am sure i have had one maybe regarding work.

Depending on who said it but face it Men chase women; not until recently have women themselves allowed themselves the opportunity to switch things around without getting taken to the edge of town and all the other females stone her to death!

So not only are we not used to it; it is what we are used to.

Argumentative, combative, always want the exact opposite of us, and maybe mostly because Mom.

Maybe Mom pops into our subconscious?

Then we might react to the fact that female may always look for weakness in a man so as to reject him easier!

It is not like mom cleaning a wound maybe enjoying the pain she delivers and cleans a little better...

well I got to go, this morning I said something so close to the truth it has ME second thinking me.

Or, look out he out and I can no longer get any grip....? on that situation
Astro1153 read my blog view my photos
Apr 18, 2008 | 7:19 PM

you know how I know if a woman wants me bad, not that it has happened since high school much at all. but she talk with me about what I wanted...

well at least till she got what she wanted
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