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Is that what you men think when a woman pays you a compliment?

Let's say out of the blue, a woman tells you, "I love your suit. It makes you look so handsome", or "You have a beautiful smile, just thought I'd let you know."  How would you take that?  Would you think she was interested in you sexually or simply giving you a nice compliment --nothing more?

My experience has been that women know how to take compliments better than men.  Men seem to struggle with the "real meaning" of a compliment.  For example, just  last week, I interviewed this woman who was stunningly beautiful and incredibly nice.  When we finished the interview, I told her I thought she was gorgeous, smart and friendly.  She seemed genuinely pleased and thanked me for the compliment.

I'm pretty sure, she knew I wasn't hitting on her.

  

When I complimented a man---just telling him that I thought he was handsome, the result was totally different.  He seemed uncomfortable and not sure how to take such a statement. 

My girlfriend tells me her experience on complimenting a man was downright embarrassing.  After telling her cycling instructor that his smile was beautiful and it made her mornings, he apparently tensed up and told her "Thanks but I'm married."  Wow! What a way to turn a compliment into such an awkward situation.  Why do men have such a tough time with a little compliment?

Like most women, I like compliments.  If they are sincere, they can make you feel good and maybe for that little moment, let you forget everything going wrong that day. 

For that reason, I don't hesitate to compliment people whenever the opportunity arises.   So, the next time you guys get a compliment from a woman, how about you just enjoy it and respond courteously with a smile and a thank you.  Trust me, her compliment probably doesn't mean she  "wants you bad!" 

 "Oh, what a tangled web we weave when we first practice to deceive."- Sir Walter Scott

  Yeah, I'm well aware of that famous, truthful quote.  I really believe in it.  But just recently 

I thought, "What harm could a little white lie do?" HA!! 

Here's what happened. 

My colleague Tim and I had to meet someone at a certain time. Since we were running late, we thought of all kinds of excuses to explain why we would be a little late.  We knew the truth ( a yummy lunch at our favorite joint) wouldn't fly.   So, after considering all the options, we both opted for this one: "We'll tell him we got a flat tire."  "Yeah, that'll work.." We both agreed. 

Well, it worked a little too well.  Five minutes later, even before we had a chance to place that "we got a flat tire-call", our car began to shake.  Tim says, "Gina, I think we really do have a flat tire."  "Oh stop it and go faster! We're late!" I responded.  Thank goodness he didn't listen.  We had a blow out.  By the time we made it over from the fast lane to the right side of the freeway, we  were nearly down to the rim.  Take a look at the pictures!

 

 What the heck was this all about?   We hadn't even lied yet.  We were about to...but then the universe turned that proposed lie into the truth.   Weird!!!!! Perhaps it was karma.  Whatever it was, I'm staying away from lies, even those "little white lies".  

   

During last Sunday's morning newscast, toward the end of the show, and during a commercial break, Rob Weller and I began chatting about different kinds of cars. The car show coming to town, started that conversation. Rob said, “I wish I had a woody.” Bob the floor director knew exactly what he was talking about. I had no clue. So I asked, “What’s a woody?” At that specific moment, we came back on air. Yikes! I was horrified that our viewers (one or two) might have heard me ask that question and wonder what the heck did she just ask??? Well, to my relief, Saul, the pro that he is, had my mic off during that question. After that incident, a colleague sent me the following lists. Enjoy:

(By the way, a woody is an old station wagon with wood panels on the sides.)

TEN THINGS THAT SOUND DIRTY AT THE OFFICE BUT AREN'T:
10. I need to whip it out by 5.
9. Mind if I use your laptop?
8. Just stick it in my box.
7. If I have to lick one more, I'll gag!
6. I want it on my desk, NOW!!!
5. Hmmmmmm... I think it's out of fluid!
4. My equipment is so old, it takes forever to finish.
3. It's an entry-level position.
2. When do you think you'll be getting off today?

1. It's not fair, I do all the work while he just sits there!

TOP TEN THINGS THAT SOUND DIRTY IN LAW BUT AREN'T:
10. Have you looked through her briefs?
9. He is one hard judge!
8. Counselor, let's do it in chambers.
7. Her attorney withdrew at the last minute.
6. Is it a penal offense?
5 Better leave the handcuffs on.
4. For $200 an hour, she better be good!
3. Can you get him to drop his suit?
2. The judge gave her the stiffest one he could.

1. Think you can get me off?

Are you surprised at this turn of events? Paris is out of jail because of "medical concerns".
Jail officials say, "Not an early release, a reassignment." I wonder how many of the thousands of regular inmates get this type of treatment.

It'll be interesting to find out what her "illness" is. Some are saying that Paris refused to eat the jail food and therefore there was concern for her health. Others say, she was suffering psychologically because she couldn't deal with being in jail.
Whatever the reason, it certainly appears like she got special treatment.

Clearly after watching this show, I know I'm not smarter than a fifth grader.

Here's the question that stumped me: Are fiction books filed using the Dewey Decimal System? I went blank. To be totally honest, I'm not sure I ever learned the whole Dewey System. Asking for help in finding a book, always seemed to work for me. Librarians are nice. :-)

Obviously, that would have cost me dearly if had been a contestant on the show.

Despite being outsmarted by a fifth grader, I found the show to be totally entertaining--apparently I'm one of millions who thought so.

“Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader” debuted to record numbers on Tuesday.

The show was seen by 26.5 million viewers! Did you see it? If so, fess up. Are you smarter than a fifth grader? Or did those little brainiacs make you look bad.

Gina

Btw, fiction books are not filed using the Dewey Decimal System. They are filed by the authors last name.