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Teach, Teach Your Children Well?
May 26, 2008 | 7:51 AM
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I was out and about the other day and found myself engaged in a conversation with a woman behind a counter at a "Member Club Style" facility.  She was about the 55 age range.  She knows I'm a Pastor and she wanted me to share my thoughts on some issues she had been experiencing lately. She seemed a little annoyed by the behavior of some of the members children.  The entry of the club is just a 500 sq ft. area. It has a big counter, with a small entry on the back side for the employees to get to the work area.  While the children wait for their activities to start they tend to run about (hide and seek type antics).  Recently one of the kids came around the corner and asked her if she was using the computer?  He wanted to play games on it......  The woman could not believe that the boy just assumed it was just a regular computer and anyone could use it.  So she explained to the child, that this is a business and she uses it to do her job and it isn't there for everyone to use. I complemented the woman for the way she delt with the child and advised her, the failing in this situation was the parents. The parents have failed to teach their children proper behavior while in "Business Settings".  I gave her the example of a McDonalds.  A  child wouldn't go behind the counter there, so why would they think it's ok at a club facility?? Simple answer - The parents have failed to "Teach Their Children Well"!

So What can this woman do?  She is in a bit of a bad position because she certainly wouldn't want to offend the "Club Members".....

I gave her some suggestions to thwart the problems, which would free  her from any confrontation with the parents. Since she is dealing with a rec center type business.  Starting this week, the kids will find a doggy style gate blocking their entry behind the counter.  Kid friendly signs will be posted regarding "Use Your Inside Voice" and "No Playing Inside The Club House".

I told her, the parents will notice the colorful signs and get the drift...... Can we please go back to common sense parenting!!!!!! Teach, Teach Your Children Well!!!!

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leasheryn read my blog
May 26, 2008 | 6:24 PM

The best way for parents to start teaching their children is for the parents to start taking responsibility. It is up to the parents to direct their children in the way they wish for them to behave whether in a public setting or at home. A public places is not a home, therefore behavior is different. We don't touch what does not belong to us and we treat items in a store or a rec center respectfully.
Kids say the darnedest things but parents need to point out what should and shouldn't be said and make the child understand that adults know best particularly when they are telling you not to touch something.
Most of the time an adult's directive is not to punish but to keep a child safe from harm. Running and playing in a business setting could cause a child to slip, fall and perhaps be seriously hurt. A parent should never be defensive when an adult is trying to help a child and keep them safe.
FloydFreak read my blog view my photos
May 27, 2008 | 7:17 AM

Pastor, my dad was a banker. I can remember forty years ago him talking about kids that used to come into the bank with their parents. He was a loan officer who had a desk far removed from the tellers. He used to talk about kids (while waiting for their parents to conduct business at the tellers) that would come over to his work area and start opening drawers on peoples' desks. Simply amazing. But it is nothing new really - just worse, IMHO.

Another thing that irks the heck out of me is eating in a restaurant when you're seated in a booth and there's a kid in the adjoining booth that is standing up looking over at you while you're eating. Or, worse yet, talking to you.

This is all minor stuff but what it boils down to is a lack of respect - that RESPECT being TAUGHT at HOME by the PARENTS (or NOT).
PastorD read my blog view my photos
May 27, 2008 | 8:42 AM

Yikes!!! So much for common sense parenting...... When I was a kid we went into any place of business and either sat down quietly or stood silently. The thought to touch, talk, play or disrupt never crossed our minds. My daughter is in High School and to this day she would NEVER act in this manner.

I can tell you when she was younger, toddler age, my in-laws thought I was too stern. Now my daughter observes the cousins and can't believe how they are allowed to act! She tells me all the time, Mom, that would last about 5 seconds with you!!

I joke and tell her, "don't ever forget it"!!
FloydFreak read my blog view my photos
May 27, 2008 | 12:11 PM

You and I were raised pretty much in the same fashion, Pastor (thankfully). I see kids doing stuff these days that would've had me getting the sn*t kicked out of me. Truthfully, my parents very rarely laid a hand on my brother and me - they rarely NEEDED to.

Like your daughter, we KNEW what the boundaries were.
PastorD read my blog view my photos
May 27, 2008 | 5:33 PM

Thats it Freak, plain old common sense parenting. All my dad had to do, was look at you. And God help you if you didn't do what mom said to do. She'd take you out in a mear second. Ha Ha

Really, your right, they rarely had to address any issues. We simply knew better.. Seems kids just don't fear their parents anymore. Mistake if you ask me....
leasheryn read my blog
May 27, 2008 | 6:46 PM

When I was little and we (my brother and I) went into the bank, we had to sit on the couch in the waiting area for my mom while she was at the teller window. We didn't dare move or fuss or cause excitement. If we were good, the teller would give my mom lollypops for us. But we had to be good first, there was no lollypop to keep us quiet but a treat for behaving.
Living in a small town, when mom had to do errands, we walked from home and along the main street where all the business were. Again if we were good we could have maybe a piece of candy from the drugstore or if we were really, really good, an ice cream on the way home.
There's something about being praised for good behavior by receiving a treat as opposed to being giving something to shut us up.
leasheryn read my blog
May 27, 2008 | 6:47 PM

Kids are too used to getting their own way nowadays and know exactly who the easy target is. Parents should be parents and set down rules.
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I consider myself a conservative republican, who gets annoyed with double standard positions. As a pastor, I serve in many areas of ministry and I am governed by a moral compass. I feel the world would be a better place if all people would be more mindful of implementing and acting in a moral way.

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