Tami

i think it does matter , well to me it does because me and my husband stood before god , family , and friends and gave our vows to love one another until death do we part , but sometimes a piece a paper don't mean sqaut if there isn't any love backing it up , i guess it depends on how much of your life you want to give to the one you love , i know couples who have been together for years and never married , i guess its up to the couple .......Debbie

I don't think it sacred any more because women like you and me are becoming more career oriented. A piece of paper is all that marriage has become...most marriages have pre-nups because of financial issues (gain or loss of..). Anyway, I thought I married for love and until death do us part (my soul mate). I don't regret it and I do not regret the two beautiful kids we have together. But over the years, as I grew more successful in my career, he became possesive, jealous and insecure...not to mention abusive. I needed someone who was supportive of my career and my growth as a person. I was to him, but I felt he couldn't do it for me. Macho-man! ha!

I agree with Sam714: communication is key. When both parties stop talking and don't really express their needs, wants and desires...there's a problem. Common interest is always a good thing, for sure. However, learning to enjoy the other person's interests (even if you are not so much into it) shows that you are willing to learn and be a little more flexible in order to be with the person you love. I always think if you meet your partner halfway and give-up a little to gain a little, it is always a plus. It means you are willing to GROW together with them.

All relationships are about sacrafice(s). What sacrafice(s) are you willing to make?
Love,
Sm42

I think it depends on the person. Some people are true to each other even though they are not married. Yet there are people who are married that could care less that they made vows to one another. It is all about whether the person means to actually uphold the vows. There are always temptations, you just have to decide that no matter how tempting they are, you cannot give in and disrespect your partner in that way.

I've been married twice and divorced twice. The relationship I've been with the same man for 12 years now and still not married. Not sure if it is not having paper that we have stayed together. Our son asked me when he was 4... i thought marrage came before babies. Explain that one. I just told him that sometimes you have the baby first and the ceremony later. He wants us to get married, I'm still shy about it. If it's not broke, don't fix it! don't love him less,