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I grew up in a time when we could afford Doctors, hospitals, houseing, food, and gas. Before unions ran alot of companies and insurance was a had to have on cars. I listened to music  that you could tell what was said, and your parents said be home by dark and by george you were cause you would be standing for a few days if you weren't. Seatbelts were invented, and our country still had one room schools. Where I grew up we all knew everyone and the police knew our families. There was very little crime because we all knew Jonny, Mary and My parents and you lived in fear that mom and dad would find out you cussed. I remember sitting politely listening to the elderly go on and on about the good old days and thought black and white TV was too cool. We got 2 or 3 channels and loved it. Hop Along Cassidy was my hero. You still listened to shows on the radio and with your parents.

I was there when they passed the law that 18 was now the offical legal age and you did not need your husbands signature to get your tubes tied. I was alive when the first color TV was introduced to the market and I was on a swing when JFK was killed outside our then 2 room school house. Yes those were good old days when you could play outside at the park until dark with no parents to watch you, and you knew who needed help because their dad was out of work and the nieghborhoods chipped in to help. I watched wars come and go and people complain about them. I lived in a time when Children were children, not so many young mom and dads. I watched the hippies, yippies, and other groups come and almost go. I watched LSD hit the drug market and ruin lifes. I lived when prison was not a day care for adults with more benifits than most of us have. You did not want to go there back then.

I learned to drive before you had to insure your car and we drove tanks of a car. That was when a car lasted forever and you got the old family car. My first car was a 49 olds delta 88 and I loved it. Yes they were the good old days, when parents let you play because we were a community and every mom watched out for every child as they would their own. I watched this change to no one knows their neigbors and don't want to, where you see nothing, hear nothing, say nothing, then complain when nothing is being done to solve anything.

I lived when we all took care of each other and never expected the government to do it. We did what had to be done because at that time we were a community of people who BBQed with each other and gathered at homes to watch the news, TV programs and talk about family. Where we found the teens at Johnnies on 22cd street, (AZ) and could bring our kids home if it was too late for them to be out. Yes I lived in the good old days when we weren't taxed to death and killed sitting on our porches nor did we fear our children playing at the park. Things have changed and we now have computors, and our kids are not safe in their own yards much less the park and mom works so we have latch key kids. And drive in movies were the thing.

Now schools are huge and our kids do not learn as much nor do they help the younger ones like we did. Yes I think I did live in the good old days even if we didn't have airconditions and all these modern things. We had each other and kids who played outside and moms at home cooking dinner and taking care of them and faimily was the center of your world. We knew every one and we talked to the police and life was much slower. Those were the days. Today I have lived for 5 years and can't tell you who lives on my old street cause I do not know them. I move to a small town because my husband got sick for a year and we lost everything. But I moved to a place where every one knows every one and the police stop and talk to you and We all gather at the local fast food place to listen to gospel music.

I think I may have moved to the good old days, only it cost more and I have a computor, and we are still struggling but we have great neigbors and they know us and we know them. Our kids play outside and at the parks and we don't worry. We can work with the doctors not the insurance companies and we take care of our large family called the community. Yes I have moved into a time warp and it is nice to be home. I have moved to an age where moving slow and caring about each other is the thing to do. It's good to go back in time to the good old days.

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jstol3 read my blog
May 11, 2008 | 3:46 PM

When I was 12 or 13 my Dad decided one day that the family didn't spend enough time interacting so he got rid of the TV. We actually did start interacting more than we had been. My brother and I got into more fights too! This was about 1957 or 1958. After about a year Dad got another TV.

gimini210 read my blog view my photos
May 11, 2008 | 5:02 PM

Yeah but we dug forts into dry washes, feed cattle with our dad, gathered eggs, helped milk the cow and made elaberate houses in the dirt. We used our imaginations. we did things that were outside of TV and we did this with one sitting in the house. I guess we knew that our siblings were our best friends and we knew we were safe in our own yards. Now there are drive by shootings, so you can't play at the parks, or in some places in your own yard. The prison are full and how many neighbors do you know more than a passing hi?

jpbikerfreak read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 9:56 AM

you do have some good points, gimini, but I think people tend to romantacize the past alot.

You also had rampant sexism, racism, cars that really DIDN'T last as long, weren't nearly as safe, and polluted quite a bit more.

But I WILL grant you that the government HAS gotten bigger, people don't want to know their neighbors, and there is less responsibility (and we have become ridiculously litigeous and 'woosified').

I blame that on the entertainment age and the me first attitude of a certain generation.

With air conditioning, sound proof cars, finished off basements, in-car DVD players, etc., People live very anonymous lives.

And hyper consumption and unbridled greed have made people tired of marketing...

Now I do NOT buy the "we were safer back then". Crime has actually been in decline for quite a while.

But the mass media uses scare tactics - such as fox 4's most recent "boogeyman on the internet" to get viewers, so everyone thinks it's so much more dangerous now.

gimini210 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 10:36 AM

Not that crime was less it is they feared prison, and people told on the "kid" next door and the bandana around your head was there to catch sweet not to proclaim a gang. You could play in your front yards across the U.S. and the parks. Now in alot of places you live in fear of getting shot, no one hears, sees, or says anything, police are not our friends and we are taxed to pay for those who do not work and in some cases don't want to. And most of our moms have to work in order for us to survive. We can not afford doctors without insurance and yes the cars did last because you could get parts from scrape yards for a 10 yr old car. Now ford changes the parts every 5 years so you have to order them if you can't find a yard with your car. They are not interchangable. Yes we have better cheap on gas, more efficant cars but at what price are we getting all this? What have we given up? We gave knowing each other, long lasting friends, and hate to tell you we still have prejudice, and alot of our rights. So the good old days may be old and out but they really weren't bad.

gimini210 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 10:44 AM

Some changes are good but most have left us without the ability to be neighbors. We are no longer communities unless we have a disaster and we don't stick our nose into others business even when it has killed some one. We have grown further away from what made us great. Our children sit in front of TVs and video games, are left to their own devices, and we toddle on as if this is good. Who teaches them their morals? Who guides them on deciding right from wrong? Who tells them how to reason? When they are in front of a game or TV you better beleive it is what they watch and interact with over longer time frames than when a parent tells them. So yes the good old days had flaws but the changes are not so good, not good at all.

ratoon10 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 11:26 AM

I remember when we cousins, and friends could walk home from the Rio theater in Bonner @ 11:00 @ night and not have to worry about anyone bothering us. But,before in the late '50's, my grandmother remembers when the Cutter's were murdered in Garden City, EVERONE began to lock their doors, and were more careful who they talked to. So, slowly things began to change.

ralex read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 11:28 AM

I was a little kid in the 60's, I remember when we got our first window air-conditioner. The grown-ups talked about wall to wall carpet as a sign of progress. Long hair was becoming the style with boys and how discussed the older men were. The first record I got was a Beatles 45. Dad got our first color TV in 1968, and us kids loved to watch Bat Man and The Flintstones in color. I never remember being scared of crime, although there were bullies in school who you would avoid. I remember watching the astronaughts walk on the moon and the Chiefs in the Superbowl.

gimini210 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 12:19 PM

The times were when you could play cowboys and indeans or pretent to land on the moon, now our kids are locked in our houses and still at times not safe.

Searchingtoo read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 12:33 PM

and cant play indians anymore cause it isnt pc....

Searchingtoo read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 12:33 PM

I dont even think it is PC to call them Indians anymore..

jpbikerfreak read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 1:09 PM

Searching, they call THEMSELVES Indians, and prefer that, but ya you're right.

It's whites that make up PC, not the people they're talking about.

They'll sooner get offended at you than Indians themselves.

I know, I live with on.

jpbikerfreak read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 1:09 PM

*live with ONE

Casino Indian, not slurpee Indian (see how long that comment stays uP).

mabell read my blog
May 12, 2008 | 2:01 PM

I'm a lot older than the rest of you and remember more about the "Good Old Days" and they were just that. I'm writing a journal, for my grandchildren, with pictures so they'll have something to compare to. They'll never see the "simpler life" and that's a shame. That's back when there was no TV,at all, no cell phones, no video games, computers, Ipods, etc. etc. Kids were kids and we found our own way of having fun.

Yes, there was racism, and there still is. But people didn't go around killing each other because of it. Our civil rights weren't being taken from us, because of a few bleeding hearts. Last but not least, there was absolutely nothing that was "Politically Incorrect" ! THOSE WERE THE DAYS.

jpbikerfreak read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 2:13 PM

Mabell, I agree with most of what you're saying, and I'm not really old enough to argue the rest based on personal experience. However, I'm not one to let the facts get in the way of a good opinion.

Bleeding hearts are not who is taking away our civil liberties. War mongering neo-cons are.

One time my grandma had about heard enough of me talking about how great everything must have been "in her day".

She told me about the great depression. She also told me that the same things that happen today happened then, it's just that now they're out in the open. Basically her point was that we went from hypocrisy to open sin. I prefer open sin personally.

She told me it's not a good idea for extended families to live together because she's seen the results.

And before you go thinking she was some nasty old lady, i can tell you she was the nicest, most social and most liked person you'll ever meet.

I think the Andy and Opie "mayberry" ideal of the old days is just a big smiley face that was painted by movie, TV, radio producers, etc.

Sorry, just not buying it. People are people. Times change, technology changes, but human nature really does not.

gimini210 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 2:28 PM

Actually people do change. Given enough propaganda you can convince them of anything. There is a saying that if you tell some one over and over the same thing the person soon beleives it. Doesn't make it true but that is life. Telling us over and over that we are progressing doesn't make it true. Yes bad things happened in my childhood, but you could still play in your yards across this country, city or burbs, now you can't. You could play in the park till dark now you can't walk in one day or night. Kids did not kill kids for a pair of shoes or their coats. We did not have to wear uniforms to stop school fights and gangs were not as violent and the killing machines they are now. The slums were where you lived when your income was low but you could still let your kids play outside. Now you can't. So were they the good old days? yes. They were the days when every one helped each other and knew their neighbors. Today we pass the person being mugged as if we do not see it.

jpbikerfreak read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 2:50 PM

Well I believe the common thread here is irresponsibility, gimini.

Everything is someone else's problem, and/or the government will take care of it.

like I said, i agree with most of what is being said here, I'm just very hesitant to want to jump into a time machine.

And for the record, I don't think we're progressing or regressing. Just the same things in different forms.

American1966 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 4:06 PM

Progress sweetie PROGRESS

gimini210 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 4:59 PM

Well progress or not this world is going nuts. It is sad. I think people should be judged by their actions and nothing else, that we need to lend a hand to others and kids need to be taught manners. It is rude to push past the elderly, make fun of others in public, and cuss around people you do not know. I never had the problems others had with colors because our family is full of them. We are black, white, red, and brown. We go from snow white hair, red, brown and black. Our eyes are every color there is and we speak alot of diffrent languages but American is the primary one. So I guess I look at the world as sad because our children are not well educated, they are losing the ability to dream up fresh ideas, and they have to worry if they will live past today. We never did. So what has progress cost us?

mabell read my blog
May 12, 2008 | 5:25 PM

biker, I'm old, but not old enough to remember the Great Depression, only the stories my mom told me.
I would never accuse anyone's grandmother as being a nasty old lady. I like to believe that all grandmother's are precious, speaking as one. Perhaps there was a difference in where I grew up. 11th & Quindaro in Kansas City, Ks. At that time K.C.K. was a lot like "Mayberry", I was there, I know. Today no one in their right mind goes into that area. The beautiful old neighborhoods look like battle zones and if you listen to the news, they are.
I'm not saying everything was perfect, but nothing near as bad as it has become. Believe me, I'd give up A/C, Plasma TVs, cell phone, etc. for one day back in that simpler time, even when we were involved in WWII, when food, shoes, gas was rationed. Everybody lived through that. Today we're fighting an enemy right here at home, some families are fighting just to survive, because of what the government does or doesn't do. Believe me, if this is what American1966 considers progress, then we'd all better grab our a$$es and run.
I do have a question. What did your grandmother mean about 'extended families living together'?
If I find that time machine, you're welcome to take a trip back to the "Good old days".

American1966 read my blog view my photos
May 12, 2008 | 8:35 PM

Hey Gimini have you considered public office? I agree with everything you have just said. I just got home from our local counsel meeting and I have decided to give up. Of a community of 5000 I was 1 of 6 people that bothered to attend so I could see and hear as to what my counselman are doing to serve my community. None of my immediate neighbors attended and they were my biggest drive to try and understand what goes on. CONCLUSION(NO BODY CARES ANYMORE)

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I am a mother of 5, have 10 grandchildren and one greatgrand child. I have lived all over the US and love to sit on docks and fish. Waiting for the big one. I love my family and a good joke, reading and painting. My siblings all think I need to be taken care of as do my children and I'm the oldest so don't know why. I watch Fox 4 News because you are about the fairest all around on T.V.

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