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Children are a Reflection of the Parent
Apr 14, 2008 | 6:56 PM
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Children are a reflection of the parent.  Children are a wonderful creation brought into being by two people coming together as one to in order to bring a new life into the world.  When two people decide to create life, they take on a great deal of responsibility.  It takes time to raise a child properly and there is much to teach particularly to someone who is new to the world and knows very little about what is happening around them.  It is a parent's responsibility to make sure the child grows up with the ability to cope with and deal with situations as they come along in iife and to give them the ability to make good sound decisions. 

The behavior of a child is a direct reflection of the parent.  What that child does, says and how they act when they are in society and away from home, shows whether a parent has done their job correctly or not.  If a child misbehaves or acts like an animal, they show the world that the parents believe this sort of behavior to be correct. 

It is certainly true that everyone makes mistakes or makes bad decisions or takes a wrong action.  Children are particularly vulnerable when it comes to making these sorts of mistakes or wrong moves but a good parent is always there to correct and to show the right way of handling a situation.  If a parent refuses to correct, the child is lead to believe that they have done no wrong and will continue with this sort of behavior pattern. 

When children act incorrectly, a parent should be embarrassed and never defensive.  What the child has done is a reflection of the parent and shows the world the true light of the parents ability to parent.

When a child is brought up to be polite, respectful and pleasant, this is also a reflection of the parent.  A child who is looked upon by others as being kind, considerate and helpful is a child other people want to be around.  This is a child to whom a parent can be proud of because this child shows the world that the parents have done their job well. 

There are children people want to see and there are children who no one wants around.  It's a parents job to decide what sort of child they want to have and should think carefully about how they wish to be reflected through their children.     

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Vittorio read my blog view my photos
Apr 15, 2008 | 7:27 AM

Not always. Some kids turn out bad no matter how well they were brought up.
PastorD read my blog view my photos
Apr 15, 2008 | 4:06 PM

Bravo fine feathered friend!!!!! Vit brings up a valid point though.... Some kids do turn out bad, usually because they have a strong will to do "their own thing" "extreme rebellion to following rules" or "General low self esteem" which makes them a target to be a follower instead of a leader. IMHO

Sheryn, I also feel that there are too many parents who are not requiring that their children to participate in activities that will instill kindness and compassion for others.. Kids have to be taught to think about, how things that are said and done to others affects people. The general question, "how would your feel if it were you" question, MUST be posed to kids..... If they can't feel the pain of others, they will have no problem witnessing IT!!!
leasheryn read my blog
Apr 15, 2008 | 6:15 PM

There are all sorts of things that can turn kids bad. Alot of what they see and hear in society has a great affect on them. Making examples of bad behavior and showing the consequences for such action is a parents perogative but a lot of parents can't be bothered, don't care or simply don't know themselves.
Children should not only participate in activities what instill kindness and compassion but should also partitipate in events where they are taught that winning isn't everything; it's okay to lose at a game but sometimes parents get too involved in sports and are hard on children when they don't always win.
nothrdayinparadise read my blog
Apr 16, 2008 | 12:59 PM

Our society says we should keep children as children until they turn 18 and then they are adults. We no longer teach responsibility and ethics. We allow the gov to indoctrinate our children into better citizens against anything we might personally believe. Why do you expect anything different from the youth of today? They are a direct representation of our authoritative public sector, not a representation of ourselves.
leasheryn read my blog
Apr 16, 2008 | 6:40 PM

I have to ask why are we so lax as to allow government interference in our lives, our thoughts and our beliefs. Isn't this not only going against the doctrines of this country but also going against the reasons why our country was formed in the first place?
We create children from our bodies and make them our own flesh and blood. Parents teach children irresponsibility by giving up their abilities to teach when they expect others to do their jobs for them; the most important job a parent will ever be called to do.
By abandoning children to the care of the government, parents represent themselves as uncaring and unconcerned.
Also remember, in this country, we, the people, are the government. And each of us represent what we want from our government and our country. It is we who say what the government does and if we don't wish to tolerate it, we change it. Tolerating it means we say it's okay.
DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
Apr 16, 2008 | 7:19 PM

Well, some kids will be bad no matter what, but most because of lack of instilled values, and/or direct parental supervision.
Some kids that are just bad, or lack a proper upbringing can cause other kids to take the wrong path in life. (Bad influence)

In my experience, the best kids I have known all came from familys that were very involved in the child's life. My daughter's friends were all of this upbringing, and she has turned out well.
leasheryn read my blog
Apr 17, 2008 | 6:18 PM

A lot of parents today lack values and standards therefore they haven't the ability to give their children the right sort of upbringing. As they say, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
There are a lot of good people out there and a lot of good kids. It's a shame we hear so much about bads kids and kids going to juvie or on parole or wearing ankle bracelets. Kids shouldn't have to face this sort of thing but it all comes back to lack of parental supervision. If the parent was there for the child, the child wouldn't be on the streets looking for trouble.
DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
Apr 18, 2008 | 8:17 PM

There is no arguing with that. If parents knew where thier kids were, there would be no juvenile crime.
DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
Apr 18, 2008 | 8:19 PM

At least, if they were responsible parents, and actually gave a crap!
leasheryn read my blog
Apr 20, 2008 | 6:32 PM

Parents should take responsibility for their children. There's no excuse but everyone seems to be full of excuses. There's always a reason why they can't be responsible and why it's not their problem. It's always someone else's fault, never their own. Parents need to get out of denial and start setting a good example for their children. Making excuses is a bad example that children will follow because it's the easy way out.
DaytonaFrank read my blog view my photos
Apr 20, 2008 | 8:23 PM

Well, it will get worse. Parents today are looking for ANY babysitter, and the field has grown. Between the endless TV shows, the video games, and the internet, no child needs to spend even a minute of time with thier parents!
If they ever need an actual babysitter, the job is too simple. Shove a Disney movie in the box, fire up some popcorn, and kick back. If they have video games, and/or can use the computer, SO much the better!

Yes, these kids are the future of America!
leasheryn read my blog
Apr 21, 2008 | 6:47 PM

This sends the wrong message to children. Children long to be wanted and needed; they want attention and they are eager to learn. But the attitude towards children has changed so drastically over the years. Children have been shoved aside while parents pursue their own lives and do their own things. When it comes to children, there are always more important things to do and always an excuses to get away.
It gives the wrong message. No wonder children act out to get attention and end up in all sorts of trouble. They want to be noticed and are fed up with being ignored.
TV, video games, the internet and cell phones is not the answer. It doesn't make up for TLC and being a part of the family.
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I am in Sarasota and enjoy reading avidly, mostly about historical subjects and biographies. Also have travelled in England and Wales, visiting family and historical sights. I like a good conversation on nearly all subjects and, although I have opinions, am willing to listen to all sides of a topic. I believe in listening and learning so your opinions are always necessary to me.

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