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Some may say I have this in the wrong section, but to me this is not very entertaining and not many read the Faith blogs so I put here. Today I heard the news of another child, another friend of my sons, a kid I coached at T-ball has died. A senseless death. Playing a game with a gun. When are these kids going to learn when you do stupid things like this, you are not only hurting/killing yourself you are hurting/killing us. The ones that have to stay on Earth and feel the pain of your loss. What is it going to take for you kids today to learn some respect and stop doing stupid BLEEP. Have you not learned yet with all the things that have gone on that you are not invincible? I hurt as if you were my own and I am tired of hurting for all the children. I hope my son, you can finally understand why I "blow" your cell phone up and I am constantly "riding your back", I do this because I love you. So, as long as your my son and I am your mother get used to it! I wrote a little poem today. It's not very good, but helps to release some of my anger. And yes, I know I shouldn't be angry with God, I can't help what I feel. I am angry with these kids today and I am angry with the parents, and society. Thanks to all who listen to me get my anger off my chest.

God,

Please tell me why you do what you do....

You give us angels and take them back to you.

These angels were meant for me....

For some reason they had to go back to Thee.

I know a child is a blessing from above....

So, please tell me why you took our love.

I have tried to teach right from wrong....

Was there something else I could have done to make them strong?

Teens today think they know it all....

Please show us how to teach them not to fall.

God, please give us another chance....

And bring our angels home for another dance!!!

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AngelBluz_40 read my blog view my photos
Apr 15, 2008 | 3:28 PM

I don't think that you posted in the wrong section. This is very sad,just to think how kids are today along with some parents who do not care. What does it take to protect our children????

You know how to reach me if needed.

Nice poem by the way!

caseyjones38 read my blog view my photos
Apr 16, 2008 | 8:29 AM

Our` present day society structure is to blame. It teaches our` children that parents are abusive, not just exercising correction. And they have "rights". I remember the "rights" I had. I had the right to do what was expected of me by my` parents, my` community, my` conscience, and my` GOD. My`goal was to make my` parents proud of me, not ashamed. There are some of our` children that are leaders and still adhere to those principals. Unfortunately most of our` youth are just followers that do the " popular " thing and not the right thing.

The poem is very inspirational.

TheShadowKnows read my blog view my photos
Apr 16, 2008 | 8:45 AM

"Children today are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannize their teachers." SOCRATES 499 B.C.

So you see? Nothing much has changed in the last 2500 years! LOL

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Apr 16, 2008 | 12:51 PM

That poem was great, very heartfelt and sadly true. I don't blame God or society as much as I blame the "parents" if more parents would be active in their childrens lives instead of turning a blind eye to where they are, what they are doing and who they are with, things may be different. It is heartwrenching to hear the constant stories of young kids dying, I fear for my kids everyday, and pray that they will hear my voice in the back of their heads before they do something stupid. Kids are bound to make mistakes, we all have but they need to understand that you can't change what happens when death is involved. I hope that you turn to God for some comfort if not understanding, in this situation. God bless.

smoker read my blog view my photos
Apr 16, 2008 | 10:00 PM

You know a few years back it was pushed that the parents will get in BIG trouble if they allow access to guns so that a child can get a hold of them.
Why I ask has this seemed to fizzle down, it is looked at as the kid was dumb for playing with it, they are, what is even dumber is why doesnt it seem to get to the bottom of how he got the gun, who left it out to get his hands on it. Why was the bullets not put elsewhere.

If parents of guns only look at this post and DO IT NOW, get rid of your guns, or put them in a safe, they are fairly cheap, and keep bullets in a seperate secure place, these things wouldn't happen as much as we see them happening.
The adults need to wake up and do the right thing, use your heads.
The kid should know this was not right also.
The parents if it was from this kids parents house should be in court to stand trial because they are just as guilty for murder even though they didn't pull the trigger.

I can just hear the parents now grieving, my baby, my baby, well DA.
It could of still been your baby had you woke up and got enough brains to put these weapons in a secure place.

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Apr 17, 2008 | 7:09 AM

smoker-I agree completly. If they are responsible enough to own the gun then they need to be responsible enough to secure it so these types of tragedies do not happen and yes the parents should be held responsible as well. We are hearing to many stories of kids dying because they were playing with the gun. I feel as though if you are going to have a gun in the house then, if your kids are old enough, talk to them about it and make sure they know it is not a toy and that it is in a sucure place that only the parents know about. Parents need to talk to their kids more, there needs to be communication. I am a single mom and I talk to my kids about most everything since my oldest 2 are 13 and 10. You really can't sugar coat things the way my parents did when I was growing up. It seems as if they know more about grown folks business than us grown folks. I am in shock at some of the questions that my 10 year old daughter askes sometimes cause there is no reason why she should even hear these things, but thats what our society has come to. Pretty sad if you ask me.

smoker read my blog view my photos
Apr 17, 2008 | 7:51 AM

Yes jigsgirl, this is why I homeschool my kids.
When the city decided to merge middle school with the elementary schools, I knew that was not good. You think they would of known better also.Kids these days do not have the chance to have kindergarten thru 6th grade before going to the next level in life which was then junior high. Teenage level.
Now these poor kids 5 6 7 8 years old are in contact with the older kids who are fighting, bringing knives and guns to school, beating up teachers, and you hear it almost every week it seems.
I am a single dad and I am going to keep my kids away from harm and the foolish school system that helped cause a lot of this younger aged mishaps by associating young minds with the older prankster minds.
I found it to be almost unsafe to send my kids to school not knowing if they may get shot when actually going there to learn. I would feel horrible to get them ready in the morning and send them and get a call theres been an accident.
I blame the school system and incompetant parents responsable and they both need to be held for the actions that were not protected to prevent such happenings.

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Apr 17, 2008 | 8:28 AM

kudos to you smoker for being a protective, not to mention a single dad. It is heartwarming to hear of a dad taking on what we as single moms do everyday. It is not an easy job. I completly understand why you homeschool your kids, my 2 oldest do not attend Cleveland schools and I would never put them in that position. By the time my 15 month old daughter starts school, I will be back in Westlake and she will get a good education. I am more scared for her to grow up cause if things are this bad now and nothing is being done about it, then by the time she is a teen it's going to be hell. I hate the thought of what the kids who really want to get an education go through everyday because of the kids who don't give a damn about their future do.

smoker read my blog view my photos
Apr 17, 2008 | 8:51 AM

Thanks jigsgirl comments appreciated.
It is a tough job, but as you and I, the kids get raised in a way that we knew it to be and we won't read about our kids in the newspapers or see them on tv in the news.
I also think almost every month what my kids will be living in, 20 years from now the way the world is going..
Things have changed so horribly in the past 20 years that if it does not have a turn around soon I would fear there may be no safe place to live, let alone what it will cost to live.
It's not only in Cleveland but you hear it in any school district in any suburb these days.
Homeschooling is not really hard, maybe at times frustrating, but the kids get a better education because I am able to help them where teachers just don't have the time with 25-30 others in a classroom,they are limited in time and have to move on weather the child understands or not.
They are safe here, and I save a ton of money on gas by not having to drive to the school 2 times a day to drop them off and pick them up, and lunch costs.
I just wished more kids was homeschooled that are innocent and like to learn, they could turn out to be outstanding people of the community and have less shattered lives from fears of going to school and witnessing all the events that take place there.
If I was to start all over again, I would do it the same way as I am now.

jigsgirl read my blog view my photos
Apr 17, 2008 | 9:59 AM

Yes it is a very scary thought of what this world will be like but I keep hoping and praying that something will change.

keep up the good work and continue to take excellent care of those angels. Good luck to you and your family. You are definatly doing the right thing by you kids. Nice to know that there still are parents who care.

survivormom read my blog view my photos
Apr 17, 2008 | 11:50 AM

I have an idea.... for all us caring parents, lets just move to an island and get away from all the evil and raise our children the best way we know how. I'm sorry about the other day when I said I was angry with God jigsgirl! It's not God's fault and I know this. I was just really depressed the other day. A lot came falling down on me that day and it was abit much to handle. The loss of a dear friend and finding out my grandpa has the highest level of cancer in his bladder and trying to comfort both my son and my mother and feeling lost at the same time. I have been thinking lately and we blame these parents for not being parents and not caring, but what happens to the ones that are teaching them right and are caring and raising them to be the best we can and they still find danger? I am starting to believe it's the kids, Casey is right. They don't care in today's world like we did. They want to explore and impress their buddies. I think we can't always blame the parents, don't get me wrong, there are a lot of bad parents out there, but it seems (to me anyways)that it's the parents who do teach right from wrong are the ones losing our innocent children. Smoker, I am so very impressed with your parenting. I give you so much credit. It is really hard to raise children today and being a single parent is even harder. I just wish we could come up with an answer and save all the children.

smoker read my blog view my photos
Apr 17, 2008 | 12:21 PM

Survivormom, thanks for the comment.
If you ever hear of that island be sure to post it here for us. I do remember a few years ago hearing of such an island though. It was during a hurricane season and it had its own rules, can't remember what they were, but not like your normal, and sounded pretty good.

Just remember when everything hits, stop and think of some of the good things and times and refresh your mind to give that extra shot of a refreshing day back into you.
For every 4 things bad that can hit you in a days time, a couple refreshing thoughts of what you have and can be thankful for is all you need to boost the day up a little.

Mentioning in your post the parents that do bring up their kids right, yes that can happen if they are mixed with the wrong friends.
You can't pick all their friends, but you can filter out the bad.
They should make a new subject in school, maybe that will drill it into these kids right from wrong and the conciquences.
Call it Safety Class and add it to Math History and the other subjects.

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I am a stay at home mother of 3. I am engaged to a wonderful man. We enjoy camping, fishing, football, wrestling and basketball. I am very involved with the schools and in my spare time, I like to write and do scrapbooks.

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